Relational astrology is one of the more popular usages of astrology in general. People want to know more about their love lives and how successful their relationships will be, as well as how to avoid or rectify problems as they arise. However, many times people get so caught up in the composites and whatever else there is these daysthat they forget to take a moment to investigate their own natal charts. As we discover more and more kinds of charts to explore, we develop this idea that if we can only find the perfect match for us that everything will be okay. All of those other failed relationships were just because of a lack of compatibility, not because we have things to work on ourselves, even though the only thing that was the same about all of those failed relationships was that we were a part of them.
As unfortunate or harsh as it can sound, we all know people who struggle to find relationships, only get into terrible ones, or people who just aren’t interested in relationships and marriage at all. This is why being able to look at what our natal chart says about relationships and partners is a helpful tool in knowing what to expect so we know what sort of pitfalls to avoid. Psychological astrology tries to frame the entire natal chart through our psyche, and so isn’t able to provide as clear of warnings as classical astrology which frames most of the chart as being indicative of the character of outside forces or people in our lives.
In the above chart, we can see Mercury as ruler of the Seventh is going to have a lot to say about the person’s marriages and partnership, characterizing those people in a certain way. None of the rulers of the 7th house can see it (because all of the planets are in signs averse to Virgo), and this gives some implications of difficulty with relationships. None of the rulers can see the house to manage it, so manifesting it becomes more difficult.
The Moon’s applications are actually going to show individual marriages and their nature. This is the chart of a woman who, at the time, is in her second marriage. The Moon first applies to an Opposition with a Fallen Saturn in the Second (who rules the 11th and 12th) and then will apply an Opposition to the Sun who is exalted in Aries. This is a pretty big shift in nature and experience, a debilitated malefic to a dignified benefic planet, immediately we can tell that the second marriage is going to be much better than the first (which she agreed to be the case). We can also tell a lot about the two different husbands by looking into the characteristics of these planets
Ill-placed Saturn: Envious, covetous, jealous, mistrustful, contempt towards women, liar.
Well-placed Sun: Faithful, prudent, industrious, thoughtful, arrogant, desire to lead.
Finally, we can tell a bit about why the first marriage ended. Since Saturn rules the 12th. we know it has something to do with some kind of hidden activity, potentially an affair or crime, and it turned out that he had molested a friend’s child.
Our last example here is of a woman who has not been married, but has had several boyfriends who have messed up her life in various ways and is well known among her friends for constantly being involved with terrible guys. Her boyfriends have had her move out of state, they’ve cheated on her, had her spend all her money, lied to her about their money, or been deceiving her some way in general. We can see where this is in her chart by simply examining the lord of her seventh house. Here Jupiter is retrograde, cadent, peregrine, in the Twelfth, and conjunct the star Algol. Very debilitated in several ways that manifest in her boyfriends and their personality, situations, and ethics.
What do you do if you or someone you know has difficult seventh house placements? The best weapon is awareness. By knowing what types of people this brings into your life, it’s easier to watch out for warning signs and learn to pass these people by while keeping an eye out for the good ones. Analyzing our own natal charts should always be the first step in any successful venture.