It’s officially Valentine’s Day, many of you are probably already out with your sweethearts, and here I am doing a post! You only wish you could be having this much fun.
Relationship horaries are probably the most common types of questions asked. It’s easy to understand why. There’s a lot of emotion involved and it can be difficult to see what another person is thinking or feeling, plus there may be hurt in the backstory of the querent who is hoping to avoid those feelings again. Surprisingly (or maybe not), there typically isn’t an increased amount of relationship horaries around Valentine’s Day, they seem to be pretty consistent throughout the year. We’re going to change that by talking about several relationship horaries and the heart.
A quick recap of different guidelines when interpreting romance horaries, I’ve talked about this before, in past posts, but now’s as good a time as any to review.
- The first house and its lord signifies the querent. The seventh house signifies the person they are asking about. There’s a misunderstanding in horary where people will take “serious” relationships as the seventh and “non-serious” relationships as the fifth. Don’t use the fifth. The only people the fifth refers to are children and if the quiested in a romance horary is a child; call somebody.
- There are a couple of different ways to see who is the most interested. The lord of the first in the seventh and the lord of the seventh in the first is a good indication that the person who is represented by that planet is the most interested. The person represented by the faster planet also shows inclination towards developing the relationship, but this doesn’t necessarily mean they want the relationship to advance or succeed. The question to ask after that is “develop the relationship into what?”
- Significators in the Fifth house can show the individual isn’t as interested in serious relationships and instead is more focused on flings or sex, as those are the types of activities signified by the fifth.
- Aspects between the significators is a must. Without an aspect the situation is very difficult bordering towards impossible. Even with good aspects be sure to pay attention to receptions and the relationships between signs.
- Relationships are more likely to flourish if the significators are in the dignities of Venus as her nature is to reconcile and unify.
- The Moon’s next aspect can give a good clue as to what the couple should be expecting in the future. Either good or bad and what the event could relate to.
- The Sun and Venus can be used as tertiary significators of the relationship, but only in regards to one another and their current phase in their synodic cycle. Venus moving towards the Sun shows a developing relationship, Venus moving away from the Sun shows a relationship on the decline, and Venus and the Sun in signs adjacent to each other shows difficulty.
In our first chart, the querent had been talking to this man every night for several weeks and were getting along quite well. Eventually, feelings started to overcome the querent about how this man was in some way similar to her exes, and she was concerned that she would marry him if she didn’t see something that would encourage her to stop. She describes herself as someone who marries men she feels sorry for, and this has been a great source of difficulty throughout her life for obvious reasons.
We can see our querent’s concern pretty clearly in this chart through her signification of Venus in Scorpio. In detriment and in a house that is averse to the Ascendant. Positions like this are typically not conducive to positive relationships. Mars receives Venus into his domicile by the separating sextile aspect, so Mars is open to Venus and what she wants to accomplish, but he can’t comfort her concerns and alleviate her difficulty in that sign. This was true as his attitude was very accepting towards her difficulties (ill health, belief in astrology, money problems), but he was unable to help her and could only offer emotional support. His significator is Mars in its exaltation and in aspect to his ruler, a classical consideration of a planet in its exaltation is one who wants more than is due, but otherwise he seems like he’s experiencing a decent time in his life. Since the querent is signifed by the faster planet, we can judge that she is the one more inclined to develop the relationship into something, and we see this through her asking the question. Venus dominates the sextile, so what she says, goes especially since Mars receives her; he’s going to do it. The aspect is separating, which is a good indication that this relationship has just about run its course. The Sun and Venus also testify to this, as they are in different signs and cannot see one another, which is a bad omen for developing relationships.
The elephant in this chart is the Moon and her next aspects. The Moon in Cancer is very strong, but applies to an opposition of Mars, there is reception by triplicity to try and help alleviate this, but this is not a perfect reception and will not be able to overcome the impending difficulty. Consider also that Mars is in the Moon’s detriment while the Moon occupies Mars’s fall. This is a clear indication of rejection, as both planets injure the other in the signs wherein they are placed. This combined with the other testimonies shows a relationship that is about done.
A bit after this, the querent felt that it was best to start moving away from the relationship, which resulted in the man sending what she described as “creepy and insistent” messages about meeting up together. The querent just continued to ignore the man and he eventually stopped contacting her.
This chart was asked by a querent who had undergone a lot of self-work in the past. Having endured a long string of misfortune, she wanted to make sure this new relationship she was currently involved in would help her (or at least not set her back) in the emotional work she’s invested into herself.
In this chart, the querent is signified by the Moon in her detriment of Scorpio which signifies the emotional vulnerability of the querent. Being signified by this placement, it’s easy to see that the querent may not be ready for a relationship at this time, and that they need to play it safe. The Moon in the Fifth house suggests that serious relationships are probably not on the querent’s mind, as it seems she would prefer fifth house activities. The guy she is interested in is signified by Saturn in Scorpio in the Fourth, these two planets are copresent with one another, but the Moon is separating from him and is Void of Course as she is not within orb of the opposition of Jupiter. Saturn being in the sign of the Moon’s detriment is not a good sign as to this man’s “effects” on her, so it seems she will likely reject him. The Sun and Venus attest to this as they are also in signs that cannot see one another, implying difficulty or even wanting different things.
This chart hasn’t quite played itself out yet, but the querent has told me about another man she was interested in as well, so it seems like our first fellow might get rejected after all.
This chart is also still in the development stage. This was asked by a woman who met a new man after a string of men she did not get along well with and eventually cut it off. Feeling positive about where the relationship was headed and the way she felt speaking with him, the querent asked if this would develop into something more serious.
The querent is signifed by Mars in Pisces who is in his own triplicity and angular who is in the exaltation of Venus. This is actually pretty interesting, usually this querent is signified by planets who are very weak, so suddenly being a more dignified planet maybe suggests a level of comfort with this guy. The guy in question is signified by Venus in Aquarius who is actually in her own face and term, so some decent dignity there as well. Unfortunately the two planets do not see one another, but there is a generosity with Mars in Venus’s exaltation. This can show someone who wants to get together with or help someone, but doesn’t have a way to actually accomplish it. The Moon does apply to Venus in her dignities and Venus is applying towards the Sun which suggest that this relationship can continue to grow and be positive, but the lack of aspect between the significators suggests no concrete relationship. Mars applies to the square of Jupiter, which could show some impending difficulty in the relationship (perhaps involving money in some way).
When discussing matters of the heart, it’s important not to overlook matters concerning the heart’s physical health. The natal chart is the best place to look for health issues, with special attention paid to the 6th house and planets within it. These signifactors will do a good job identifying the health issues the native will experience. The Sun and Leo have a natural association with the heart, so malefics in this sign or afflicting the Sun can show difficulties with the heart. All of the Fixed signs will have influence over the heart, since they are in the Square and Opposition of Leo. People who are very strong in the choleric temperament tend to have heart difficulties because they are said to have strong pulses, this can manifest in heart palpitations and high blood pressure as choler is very active.
Herbs of Jupiter and the Sun have strengthening and fortifying influences on the heart. Herbs and foods of Mars tend to have quickening influences on the heart (think salt’s influence on blood pressure), and herbs of Saturn tend to slow the heart down.
On a more emotive note, there are some significations concerning people who die from intense grief or broken hearts. Cornell associates this with a Saturn in Capricorn influence (as he attributes it to extreme melancholy) and says Saturn afflicting the lights and the hyleg can show someone who struggles with extreme depression and may ultimately die from it. If Saturn is Lord of the Eighth and the Moon applies to a harsh aspect without reception, or the Lord of the 8th being a malefic planet who is in the first all show difficulties with extreme melancholy which can manifest itself as depression, isolation, and the inability to move on after tragedies.