If you have an Astological background, the first thought will be of a sexual nature. We have been taught over and over that Venus and Mars speak to our sexuality. And it does sometimes. But often the conjunction (or other aspects) involve family members, friends, co workers, peers, others in life that we don’t immediatly feel we need to peel off our clothes and do the wild thing.
My last husband and I had a Venus (his) and Mars (mine) conjunction. That worked out nicely for a little while. That same passion has turned into a passionate hatred. That was and is hard on me, I don’t hate people…. he is the exception.
Let’s look at the planets. Venus is that which we find joy and love in. She is passive and flirtatious and looks for harmony. Mars is direct, action, destruction, drive…. you get the idea. We are apt to think that with this conjunction that we find harmony and excitement…. we can also find distaste and anger. The houses and signs can tell us more. In my case, my ex’s Venus and Moon conjunction is in his 8th house in Capricorn. I conjuncted them with my Mars and Mercury conjunction in Capricorn. So, we can see with him that the female “ideal” is wrapped up in his emotions and confuses the role with that of the Mother (the Moon) in a house of joint possessions (I am still broke after a year apart) and that he felt he needs to be provided for by women in any role. My Mars and (biting tongue) Mercury had plenty to say about that. And those same planets of his fell into my house of karma, undoing, subconsious…. OMG, I married my Mother (appropriatly said, as the Moon was involved). We really destroyed each other and everything in our surrounding. Being in Capricorn… we did it well, masters of it you might say.
Now my children, I have a daughter with Mars in Gemini and a son with his Venus in Gemini at the exact degree. Those two are never quiet and are quite destructive when they get together. They are also hilarious and come up with amazing schemes together. I suspect they egg each other on… like when they flooded the back yard during winter trying to make a skating rink, or the hand prints I can’t even paint over when they made a paste trying to climb the walls like spiderman. There is a closeness to them that amazes most people. When they were younger in school, if they passed each other in the hallway, they would break out of lines just to go hug one another. The teachers were always telling me such stories. What other’s didn’t see where the conflict times and the passions involved with that. Can those two argue! And there are times I think they verbally disagree just to hear themselves (Gemini) and to practice bantering back and forth.
Their fondness for each other is evident from the beginning. He started walking when he was 4 months old, just to keep up with her. She would crawl into his crib at night to hug him. I took them swimming and my son was out a bit deep and I was standing next to him to help out… and he got a bit of water on his face and panicked, he called out her name to help him, even though I was right there. Even to this day, (they are teens) if he is asleep his sister can not resist hugging him… and he usually wakes up and pushes her away or hits her. That is the side other’s don’t see. Tormenting each other and wishes of death are not uncommon. My son was 3 and asked Santa for a Lego dinasaour that would eat his sister. I had to take them out of Kung Fu because they were causing bodily harm to each other. My daughter was also told by her brother that I did not love her and she should run away…he did that for years. She in turn told him he had a twin brother that I killed at birth and he was next. She knows his weakness, and this kid is still terrified of phantom alligators that live under the bathtub. He knows hers and tells her she is gaining weight.
So, Venus and Mars… Planet of Love and Planet of War… maybe a conjunction isn’t always the best thing or maybe just looking at one side of the aspect doesn’t prepare us for what else is to come.