Let me start this out by quoting myself on a phrase I coined. Sometimes “Soulmate” means sleeping with a knife under the pillow. That’s harsh, I know. Many of us yearn for that perfect storybook romantic love of life that ballads are sung of and poets wax on about. As for my take? I don’t know…. really, I have no “proof” of other incarnations, and lack the faith required to leap across the unproven belief that there is another perfect someone out there that we must rejoin with. That said… I am a romantic, and would love nothing more than that be true, and all our worlds filled with cotton candy wishes and iridescent ribbons wrapped around mischievous rubenesque cherubs and angelical doves, floating on whispery heart shaped bubbles infusing the air with the aroma of lavender and roses. Being of such ilk, I have spent much time collecting data from all over that gives aspects that show karmic ties and supposed soulmate markers. I can not vouch for such, but will comfortably say, these aspects do show as very positive in the synastrys and the more of them present, the more fateful a relationship would feel. I do urge those who want to study along this line further to view the charts of Paul and Linda McCartney and that of Joanne Woodward and Paul Newman. Those long standing and nurturing relationships have many of the “soulmate” aspects.
On the use of orbs. I would strongly suggest erring on the side of frugality. My suggestion is to use up to 4 degrees and maybe 6 with a Luminary. Myself, I stick with 3 degrees and 5 for Luminaries…. it keeps you honest. Think of it as in ribbons… 3rd place gets white, 2nd red, and 1st blue… um, well if we are looking for “Soulmates” shouldn’t they be blue ribbons?
Also keep in mind the evolution of the person’s involved. Sometimes the charts are so very compatible, but the couple not ready since they have not experienced and developed the maturity to work with a positive relationship. Point being, that until person A has learned to control his afflicted Mercury… person B may not be able to live with deception… until that changes or person B develops their Neptune aspects… that is just an example, it could play out many different ways.
The Vertex and the Nodes
These are usually the culprits in those relationships that feel fated beyond our control. This is neither a good or bad aspect… just a powerful need to be together. The Vertex is also referred to as “Destiny’ Gate”. It is an Axis (the other side, the Anti-vertex) where the Prime Meridian intersects with the Sun’s Ecliptic orbit. The Vertex in Synastry (or the Anti-vertex) should only be used with conjunctions with orbs of no more than 2 degrees. It is not unusual in a Composite chart to find the Vertex conjunct the Descendant within a degree with married or “destined” couples. The Vertex gives this feeling of inescapable fateful life altering events. Look also at the first meeting chart and see if a Vertex was activated at the time of the meeting. The Nodes (also known as the Dragon head and the Dragon tail) are important karmic indicators. Without going too much into the meaning, look for Nodes to conjunct the other person’s Angular Axis (Asc, MC, IC, Desc) Conjunctions with either Node and a personal planet of the other. And finally, look for the Nodes in the Natals to oppose each other or square each other (hard aspects) Again, visit the first meeting chart and look for the same and also the Composite back to the individual Natals.
The Arabic Parts
Calculate the Arabic Parts for each natal and then apply to the Synastry. Look for the Parts of
Love = ASC+Venus-Sun
Lovers = Mars+Venus-5th Cusp
Karma = ASC+Saturn-Sun
Sexual Desire = ASC+Cusp5+rule of 5
Sexual Drive = ASC+Pluto-Venus
Marriage = ASC+Cusp of 7th – Venus
Destiny = MC+Sun-Moon (am) MC +Moon-Sun (pm)
A handy online calculator available at http://www.noendpress.com/pvachier/arabicparts/index.php
See if the parts fall on the other persons personal planets or on the Angular Axis (and corresponding houses), or the Nodes/Vertex.
Antiscons are the vertical mirror point of a planet, and the opposite point the Contra Antiscon. It is a strong karmic indicator if a personal planet’s Antiscon is conjunct or opposed a personal planet or point. I personally realized how strong this aspect is when I found my Moon’s (Cancer 6) antiscon is Gemini 23. I see that same degree and sign in my Persona charts, it is conjunct my daughter’s Mars, my son’s Venus, my sister’s Moon, my brother’s Sun, my mother’s Asc, my best friend for 25+ years Asc, and have seen it conjunct the Moon and/or Venus and points with various relationships or love interests. Don’t forget to look at the antiscons in the composite and see if they conjunct with the individual Natals.
Here’s the vast list… good luck and keep the orbs tight!
Sun conjunct or opposed Moon
Sun conjunct major points (Vertex, MC, IC, Asc, Desc, Nodes)
Sun located in the other’s 4th or 7th house
Moon conjunct or opposed major points
Moon conjunct or oppose Moon
Moon conjunct or opposed Venus
Moon conjunct or opposed Neptune
Venus conjunct any major points
Venus conjunct or opposed Neptune
Venus conjunct or opposed Pluto…. this one use a wider orb, and beware it brings a very obsessive quality to the relationship
Saturn conjunctions to the Moon or the Sun or on the major points
In addition, Midpoints.
Sun conjunct/opposed others Sun/Moon
Moon conjunct/opposed other’s Sun/Moon
The Sun/Moon midpoint falling on any of the major points of the other.
Yes, I left out Venus/Mars… that shows a sexual compatability…. not a Karmic marker. Trines and Sextiles and the other aspects all do matter, but we are looking for specifics. I would say to have at least 3 or 4 of the above would be a good indicator that the relationship is Karmic/Destined/Fated
Look at the Progressed, Natal, and Solar Arc charts and compare to the first meeting. Look for Venus, the Moon, Uranus, and the Nodes to be prominent and making conjunctions from that first meeting chart to the Natals and the Composite chart.
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