Many times, I believe, the motivation for learning divination systems comes back to control issues. I am including myself in this, so I can be as pointed as I want. Face it, who doesn’t want the inside track? The danger (and bad Karma Points, kids) comes when observance is left behind and manipulation takes over. Manipulation, that word makes most of us control freaks cringe. We hate to have someone do it to us, but somehow justify when we do it to someone else.
I had a friend come up and tell me he met a girl that read his Tarot cards. I told him, careful…. you will marry her and he laughed. Wonder if he was laughing 6 months later when saying I do. I have seen that done so many times. And may be it was a legitimate reading, maybe. But when the reader has a personal stake, is it the right thing to subject the other person to a probably bias interpretation?
Having worked as a Psychic and with Astrology, I have seen my share of those that are just garnering information to “use” against another one. And we wonder why the 7th house is used for both partnerships and open enemies. I have been PMed with requests that would make a person shudder to think a spouse would sink so low. The 7th house is also disowned material that we project on someone else… in that sense, I guess we are our own worst enemies. On a forum I frequent on Astrology, we had a gal all dramatically demanding attention cause she thought the “perfect man” was getting away. After reassurance and numerous Astrologer’s pointing out the guy was in a crisis point and needed some time and compassion, the woman’s postings changed in flavor. Now it was, when I hear from him, I am not going to respond right away…. WHAT??? It was just said he was torn up and in crisis mode, why would anyone knowing that cause further distress to someone they love and intend to live a life with? Wouldn’t the kindest and right response be something like… I am so glad to hear from you, I missed you, what is going on?… That is much too vulnerable for anyone not willing to let go of control. And the manipulation continues thanks to some insider insight.
I remember reading my first husband’s cards for him… way before we even went out on a date. I could see where the cards were going and with the final one turned over… I looked at him and said, “I can’t read these” and walked out to another room thinking, hmmm time to order the wedding gown. Now, I am confident I did not give him any information that would have swayed his opinion of me…. but now I have to wonder if I acted differently. Did I promote the relationship on some level, cause I knew the supposed outcome? Would the outcome been the same (us married) if I did not do the reading at all?
In a similar vein, I had been working with some charts and the interactions between myself and another. The charts are so incredibly compatible, my temptation is to pop him over the head with them and say, “are ya blind man…. look at the charts!”. But I know better. I also know I prolonged communication way beyond what a sane person would… cause of the charts confirming what I was feeling. So have I tainted anything? I don’t know. I was working with Solar Arcs and could see important peak days for him. So am I obliged to say something? or do I just sit back and watch the drama play out? When a particular event passed, I was asked… “did you see this happening in the stars?”… I knew it was time to disappear. Yeah, I saw what was due to happen… not the outcome, but the stage set. I decided right then and there, that was it. I will not say anything and see what destiny has in store instead. I am nervous for him though… the same Solar Arc will activate next month involving the Moon while the eclipse is due in conjunction, and the SN in proximity. And I will go to bed that night and cuddle up with my integrity and wait for the dust to settle.